I'm anticipating him telling me on the day of my father's service that he doesn't want to go. I've often heard this from him when it comes to my family's gatherings and occasions when we have all gathered together.

I have been thinking about what to tell him if he says this to me. I am sick of catering to his needs, to his moods and to everything being all about him. This is about me, and supporting me in the loss of my father. Yes, it will be a very long day - the event goes from about 1:30 PM til about 9PM, with the service, a reception and then a family dinner.

At first I was thinking of a snide remark in reply - like, well, if it's SO much of an effort to support me today, then by all means, don't come.

On the opposite end, I could sympathize and say, I know it's a long day ahead with my family and members of my family you must meet, but I appreciate your support today.

I am not sure how I will react if he says this to me. I know I will be upset, to say the least. And when I get upset, I react.