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Old Sep 21, 2022, 11:36 AM
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Originally Posted by Rive. View Post
When it is about self-care and protection from abuse, I believe it is important to take a stand - however 'disruptive' it might be/seem to other people. Getting out of abuse trumps it all.

There is no 'right' timing anyway - as in planning when would be the least 'inconvenient' time to make ruffles. When it is a question of abuse, it is a question of 'leave now'.

This is a decision that each one has to make for themselves. Others can't hold you back. It is important to take back one's power and say: enough is enough, I am leaving, period. This is on us and *our* decision and responsibility (unless a child is concerned, then the onus is on the parent), not anyone else's.
I have NO choice but to respect my mother’s request. And now, it's only a matter of days until my father's service.

I have to do this in a way that is most comfortable and safe for me. I am planning my exit strategy. When it comes to abuse, this is how it must be done.
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