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Old Sep 21, 2022, 12:41 PM
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Originally Posted by Bill3 View Post
It sounds like it is a bit of a pattern with him to find/create reasons to avoid major events in your family.

I'd like to think that he would not try that for this specific, really important and deeply meaningful event.

But in view of the past, I think you are wise to prepare yourself, and your response, in case he does.
It is a pattern and the more I see it the more distressed I am over it. He almost ruined last Christmas with my family because suddenly he did not “feel well”, which is code for I need to leave and can’t be with your family one second longer. He demanded that we leave, and before all presents were opened. Then we had words in the car over it. It almost ruined the entire day for me.

So yes, I am preparing myself.
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