(((((ihadthisdream))))) Relationships are all about compromise, but if you’re the only one giving in, you’re not partners. It sounds like a bait and switch to me. What happens if you wait the 10 years and he decides he still doesn’t want marriage or children? He’s asking you to give up an awful lot on a maybe, what is he giving up? It sounds like you need to do some serious soul searching and decide what is important to you. Once you decide, don’t give him an ultimatum, but lay it on the line for him, tell him what you need from the relationship to continue in it. If you’re heading in different directions, even marriage won’t save this relationship.