It would be the end of it for me. The only way my husband would stay home for my family memorial service is if he tested positive for covid that day or had a heart attack that morning.

Having said that, sometimes we both decide to not partake in something. I have some obnoxious extended family members, so if we can help it we get out of it. But I’d not be going alone to family events if I am married. I’d be single then.

This isn’t acceptable. I don’t care how long it is., our funerals like never end. They go on forever. So what? It’s normal. Nothing unusual. You stick together. That’s what you do. That’s why you marry. Why’s he married then? He could just date or be single. There’s zero excuse. It shouldn’t be ever tolerated.

Honestly you excuse him for things that are not acceptable or typically excusable in a marriage. I don’t blame you for that as I understand you get used to unacceptable behaviors and it’s hard to get out. I get that. But this honestly isn’t acceptable. That’s not how married couples operate