Oh SushiNCorn, My heart breaks for you in reading your story.
No one, certainly not this person you spent the last 10-12 years with, should hurt you like that.
You expressed yourself so well in saying all of the sudden you were looking at a stranger. How heartbreaking...
I believe it was Socrates who said statements should pass three criteria — 'Is it true; is it kind, or is it necessary?'
Wishing you strength and courage, in particular, during this time.
HUGS!!!