I don't know. It sounds like marriage means different things to each of you. People are having children later and later all the time. The stats change from age 35 but technologies are getting better and better and it isn't uncommon for women to be having children up around the age of 40.

Could you have relationship counseling at all? In terms of discussing what you want in life and whether you can see making compromises in order to stay together? It would seem a shame to give up on this so soon without giving that a shot first. I'm not quite sure what to say.

I have sympathy for the not getting married idea. That being said, something in the way of commitment can be important. I think I might be interested in getting a civil union instead of having a wedding... Not sure... Hang in there.