You can’t fix your wife. But your children need help. Living with alcoholic parent damages them for life. They need therapy and Al Anon. Now.

Stop focusing on your wife and her well being. Focus on well being of your children by getting them out of this situation ASAP. If it means you will live in one bedroom apartment, sleep on a mattress on a floor and drive a junk car then be it.

Your responsibility right now is to save your children not to worry about your grown up wife while she chugs bottles of alcohol. Now it explains why she can’t hold a job and why she is depressed. No kidding!I’d chug a bottle of wine I’d vomit my brains out and surely wouldn’t be able to work next day and I’d be depressed in bed. Heck I feel depressed just thinking about it. She is in pain? Has bad memory? Anyone would be in pain pickling their brain every day. Geez.

Save your children and yourself. There’s help for people like her. She doesn’t want to? Not your problem. Your problem is your children. Not a grown woman who treats everyone like trash.