I completely understand why you feel unhappy and angry. It's sad to me that your husband refuses to hear you when you tell him you don't like when he name calls and insults you and can't control his words like he can the volume of his voice. Promises now are irrelevant. He refused to listen when he was supposed to and that isn't going to change. It's unfair and selfish of him to expect you to endure misery so he can be happy.

I have a support group friend who says her ex is a wolf in sheep's clothing. She thinks of him that way to remind herself of the hurt and pain he caused for 15 years when she feels he is saying things to manipulate her. It seems to be working because she doesn't put up with his antics at all anymore.

I know the next few days are going to be difficult for you with your father's services. I wish you all the best while you manage this. I'm sure you will get through this and you will be ok. ((hugs))