Wow, is he good. He is trying to plant seeds of doubt in my mind. He’s now minimizing our fights and his insults because he “hasn’t been himself” due to his mother’s health. He is telling me I’m not giving him a fair chance and that this is a mistake on my part. He’s saying how he’s supported me through all my troubles and in sickness and in health kinds of things. He’s saying anything and everything to get me to doubt my decision.

Does “in sickness and in health” also entail enduring and forgiving insults?? Does it entail enduring multiple fights that your spouse initiates?? Does it entail not knowing from one day to the next how your spouse may react to innocent and benign questions or comments??

And how can he say I haven’t given him a fair chance? He’s had chance after chance to make things right with me. We’ve been back together for over a year now. He’s been in therapy for over a year. I’ve given him many chances - too many. There should be no insults at this stage — NONE. There’s no excuse for that.

I wish there was somewhere I could go to truly separate from him right now. We have to live together, and his pleading is making this so much harder.