This is interesting. To a certain degree I can understand this. Being able to relate to someone is important. I think that refusing the help of someone who has what you want in life is a bad idea though. They haven't always been parents, they haven't always been employed, they haven't always lived where they do.... where they are now is different from where they started.

I guess it depends on what you want the goal of your counseling to be. Are you looking for someone to just validate your feelings and life as difficult? Or are you looking for someone with a "been there, survived that" style and here's how I survived what you're going through counselor? Because anyone who has survived hardship who is a counselor now, is likely not living the same life they once were. They may not advertise or openly discuss their own hardships. Perhaps you should start telling them you doubt they can understand you upfront because they appear to have a life that you don't yet have.

I do hope you find what you are needing and wanting in a counselor.