(((Hugs))) I understand what you are trying to explain. Finding a therapist that can be sensitive, empathetic and able to witness your personal challenge in life is not all that easy.

Something I hear all the time is advice to not wonder why when facing a challenge in another person but to ignore and move on. Well, I am glad not everyone is like that and instead have made it a point to pursue the why.

Yes! People can be mean and heartless and judgemental out of ignorance. They may say they care and are even empathetic when in reality if they personally don’t think something has value or is important they won’t be sensitive to someone struggling who feels something is important and to be valued and respected.

Who has more value, the person who is good at learning and is valedictorian, OR the person who struggles with dyslexia and has to learn a different way but managed to stay on the honor role despite that extra challenge? Should the dyslexic child feel bad or not good enough?

What I can say is the child that has to work harder is more than likely going to be more empathetic than the child that has an easier time of excelling. And what has been recognized is often the dyslexic child can actually have a genius IQ.

When it comes to human beings it can be quite complex and certainly not black and white. It is important to have a therapist that is capable of putting aside what they consider of importance and have the ability to listen and delve into the uniqueness of the person sitting across from them and help that individual feel safe to open up and explore what is important to them and how they are challenged without judgement.

Not all therapists can do that.