So, my husband is flying to California to be with his sick mother and his one living brother. He has no money to even take an uber ride to the airport, and no money to support himself while he is in California. He asked me if he keep pay less rent this month - I said no. He asked me if I could cover him for his trip and he will pay me back - I said no.

I told him I am no longer covering for him and that he has to figure this out on his own. Can't he borrow from his brother?

I also told him he treats me like a bank account. I have. been covering for him every single month practically and as of late - at least in the last 6 months or so, I would say. He would run out of money during the month, so he would have to borrow from me to get by. He always paid me back, once he got paid himself.

But this situation never made me happy. I know it comes down to him always living life beyond his means, which has consistently been an issue. And I am tired of it. I have covered for him, allowing this, each and every month. I gave up on trying to talk to him about saving his money and not overspending. He is impossible in this area.

I am glad I put my foot down and drew a boundary, but I feel slightly bad for doing so. I know I should not feel bad for drawing a boundary. At this point, we are not together, so why should I continue covering for him financially? He's going to have to figure this out on his own.

I guess this is a part of codependency? I have rescued him and have tried to fix him, all to my own detriment. I want to break out of this.