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Originally Posted by SushiNCorn
Your post resonated with me in so many ways.
Your situation sounds exactly like the one I went through 6-7 months ago. Me insisting that we go for counselling and him saying he didn't believe in it.
Me crying all day & all night, while he sat there expressionless... not a hint of sadness in his eyes, let alone a single tear.
I have also been the one earning much more than him consistently throughout our marriage.
I guess just a couple of differences between my situation & yours:
we were married for 10 years... seems so small when i read your 25.
I have moved out and I was the first one to take the step towards initiating the divorce. I just couldn't take the treatment anymore. It was almost like he wanted to keep me hanging while he pursued whatever it is that brought us here. I decided that I am not going to be somebody's back up plan
Of course, that being said, I still have exactly the same rollercoaster of emotions that you mentioned. One minute I am happy & relieved that this ended at the right time.. I am still in my 30s, have no kids, can think of starting over. And the next minute this sense of utter loneliness takes over all the other emotions.
Its a huge change in your life that you are going through and it is going to take time. Hang in there.. and if you ever need a listening ear, feel free to reach out.
Sending you love & prayers.
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Watch out for those roller coaster ride of emotions. They may make you want to go back due to loneliness. There must have been plenty of problems for you to move out and file for divorce. What does he have to offer you in this marriage ?
If your the breadwinner then it sounds like he could just be a hanger on or leech , ( not meaning to be sexist here ). Does his good points outweigh his bad ?
In any event 10 years is 10 years but it's all water under the bride now. Your not really obligated to anyone but yourself . You can SHARE your life with someone but you don't own anybody and nobody owns you. Stay the course. Your young and entering the prime of your life. Move on and be happy.