@BeyondtheRainbow and @Sunflower123, they are cuties, but I'd never feel comfortable picking them myself. There must have been at least 10 different varieties out there but most are inedible and a couple downright poisonous. SIL only picks the ones she is certain are OK.

We are at our long-term temporary place right now. We have some more stuff coming with a friend tomorrow. We showed SIL the property we bought and she approved of it. Our friend who will do the renovations was also there passing ideas by us.

@Sunflower123, you are never a "drag on the system" and never feel any qualms about stepping away from here. I think many of us, including myself, have done so, either once or even many times. I understand when people wish to deactivate their accounts, but note that it may be hard to come back if you've deactivated once before or changed your username. Do check the site rules or with a moderater before ever considering such a thing. What can seem right one day, need not be permanently. Truly, I have never felt you did anything but add value here. Many members I've seen cause "problems", stepped away a bit and then came back and offered oodles. And sometimes we need more than we can give. That's OK. If it wasn't, none of us would ever stay. With a mental illness, it's par for the course to have fluctuating needs and behavior. If we can't understand that, then how could we expect to hope for it from others?