You are so right when you say how the roller coaster of emotions can make you want to go back. It happens to me sometimes too, but I make a conscious effort to get over that feeling.
When you asked what did he have to offer in the marriage, I really had to think long & hard and found no answer
In spite of me being the primary earner in the house, he still expected me to be a homely-wife. That was one of the reasons (from him anyways) for our marriage to fail. I constantly felt criticized for not being able to cook & clean.
Now that I think about it, I wonder how I tolerated it for those many years. It's a good riddance at the end of the day.
Thank you so much for offering me a perspective which I really needed.
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Originally Posted by moodyblue83
Watch out for those roller coaster ride of emotions. They may make you want to go back due to loneliness. There must have been plenty of problems for you to move out and file for divorce. What does he have to offer you in this marriage ?
If your the breadwinner then it sounds like he could just be a hanger on or leech , ( not meaning to be sexist here ). Does his good points outweigh his bad ?
In any event 10 years is 10 years but it's all water under the bride now. Your not really obligated to anyone but yourself . You can SHARE your life with someone but you don't own anybody and nobody owns you. Stay the course. Your young and entering the prime of your life. Move on and be happy.
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