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Oct 05, 2022, 10:41 AM
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Member Since: Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
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Oh, God. @Soupe du jour, I am so, so sorry to learn of such awful news for you and for your family. How cruel for your brother. For all of you, for everyone in your brother's life.
My precious sister had breast cancer when she was 52. She'd been an addict for many years before. After having to have her breasts removed she felt her cherished career was affected. She was obsessed with that and began using even more. When she was 68 she was found to have metastasized cancer. Our family was...there are no words...only the awful despair, vicious fear, severe anxiety, anticipatory grief, the tiniest flicker of hope for - at least more time, only please, just more time...and the terror that one will completely break down in front of the so sick sibling, letting them know that you know that the probable end is clearly in sight. God, that. That.
My sister lived with it for a few months, opted not to have further treatment, then OD'ed herself at age 69. That was 5 years ago, this month.
I am relating my story to you to say that I have been in that place. My heart goes out to you - and you are not alone in this.
I am honored that you have trusted us enough to share your so-painful news and allow us to offer our support. I do believe that after a bit, you will feel the courage to look past the cruelty of the illness and see your brother as he truly is - the soul of a man you are profoundly connected to. When that time comes for you (it will!), will it be possible to visit your brother, and your family (especially your dad) in the States?
Soupe, I want you to know that I am sending you loving support, and along with that my strong belief that you will find peace, somewhere, in all of the pain you've been presented with.
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