I have very rarely blocked members here, and most that I have I have eventually unblocked, because I try to forgive or the blocked member adequately apologizes. Or on rare cases, I have felt triggered by a member and needed relief from them, though usually temporarily. However, I have noticed a case where a member was blocked and yet they bypassed the block by reading the "blocker's" posts (plural) and then posted by a method ignoring the blocking. Sometimes the stress or wound that causes a member to block is still raw and they need time. Or, they truly need to keep a particular member blocked.

When one blocks a member, they should not continue to be contacted by that member, in any form. It can add stress or even feel like harassment, at the very worst. Generally this has never been an issue I have seen, but I have, recently. Imagine having a bully from school show up at your home front door? Actually, that happened to me when I was maybe 12 years old, and it was very distressing, as home is supposed to be a safe haven.

To the moderators and DocJohn, please tell me how this issue can be resolved? Please don't tell me they should suddenly be unblocked for a conversation with the blocked member. There are sometimes additional stressors in members' lives that make such conversations untimely or unfeasible.

I have seen members here complain about getting hugs or likes from a blocked member. I'm not personally picayune so much about that, but I understand those who are. However, beyond that? It can be too much.

Note examples of ways a blocked member may post to a blocker:

1. They simply type the blocker's name in a post that is eventually read by or communicated to the blocker.

2. They pretend that they "quoted" the blocker's post (that they read) by likely quoting another member, but then changing the member name and quote content in the quote code portion. Then the blocker sees it or hears about it. For example:

[Q*UOTE=Soupe du jour;7260589]Thanks for the kind words and support during this tough time for my family![/Q*UOTE]

to...

[Q*UOTE=DocJohn;7260579]I feel like going to the movies tonight. They are playing Star Wars at the City Theater.[/Q*UOTE]

Note that the quote above is not really a real one from DocJohn, it just demonstrates a type of possible manipulation.