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Old Oct 06, 2022, 05:26 PM
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Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins View Post
Suggestion: Take this time to “find yourself” again. Don’t jump into trying to date again for a while. You know that old saying about not making any big decisions while you’re depressed? There’s a great deal of wisdom in that.

My situation is different; my husband died. But you are going through your own kind of grief process. I have taken this last year (plus) just as time to honor my grief, figure out who I am without my husband of 34 years, and get comfortable in my own skin in this new “normal.” It would be a mistake for me to even try to be in a new relationship yet; I am not ready. One day maybe, but I am discovering that I am pretty comfortable single at this point.

Tighten up your privacy settings on your social media and settle in for an adjustment period. Grief is a normal response to your loss. People grieve even at the loss of bad relationships.

When you are ready, start small and with activities and people that are healthy and not full of “mess”. When you are comfortable and content on your own, you’ll discover your new relationships will be healthier.

Keep your boundaries and best of luck as you move forward.
Great advice, and I will.

I was only just talking to a guy, not planning on meeting him or dating him.

I know I need this time to myself to heal... and to find me again. The me who had sacrificed so much of myself to be in this relationship - there are many things I stopped doing that I love doing, so I want to get back into all that I used to be into. I need this. AND I do not need a man to mess with my life in any way right now. I want quality "ME" time.
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