Thanks so much for the suggestions.

What do I do when he insists on talking while we're still living together? He just did that. He came home and I saw him for the first time in a week. He said, let me just say this one thing. Well, that one thing turned into a 15 minute diatribe about all the good things he has done in this relationship, how he hasn't stepped out of our marriage except for the one time and not since getting back together, and how my loss of trust in him has nothing to do with that and only boils down to a "few fights" we had, as he put it.

I finally just told him he is repeating himself and that I don't care to discuss it further. As he tried again to rope me back into an argument about us, I had to repeat myself, "I don't want to continue talking about this". Finally, I got pushed too hard, and I blurted out "you have no respect for me. In these fights, you treated me with total disrespect, not just once but several times, and you have failed me as a husband. You have killed my love for you", is what I told him.

At this point, he told me he agrees to no longer discuss it, that he wants to move out as quickly as he can, and he doesn't want to be here either.

Then we said from now on we will be courteous and nice to each other.

He now has left to go clean up the place he will be moving back into. And I am left reeling and pissed off.