I think your t was wrong. They were projecting because they wont admit to themselves that they are bored. By their family or whatever. Its a tough job, the dailiness of it.

But i was also trained not to impose. To get in and out fast with my question. To the point that people found me rude and uninterested in them. I used to tell my t, i figure if somebody wants me to know something, they will tell me. Otherwise i am overstepping bounds by asking. But it was just my mother and brother constantly excluding that led to this false understanding of the real world.

Posting here helps me to learn appropriate interactions.

This is a very subtle problem, i think. People will make up their minds about why you are doing what you are doing, usually with a judgment that is not in your favor! And you are never made aware of it, except that you are once again ostracized.

Eta - i find your posts on this subject intriguing and thoughtful.