(((hugs))). I am guilty of over sharing, but getting better. We have a need. It's gone unfulfilled, and we take what becomes available to us.

As my dh got less well over the years, I learned to regret pretty much every time I opened up to him. It is generally a dead end. I turned to other people, but realize too late that it makes most of them uncomfortable if we aren't close enough to talk on a regular basis. Less is often more, unless somehow the conversation seemed to naturally evolve this way. Did you feel like you overshared? Did she share back? That can be a good barometer of whether you are really oversharing or just bonding.

I've found journalling helps me avoid this to some extent. Once I put all those thoughts,and emotions on paper, they are out of me and I'm less inclined to need to share them with another person. I can also talk them out to myself if I'm able to have time alone. There's something about just processing them out.

Be gentle with yourself. It's easy to fall into that and it doesn't make you any less of a person. It's good that you recognize that it might not always be a good idea, and then you can work to change it.