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I found after growing up in a dysfunctional family (parents) for 21 years & then landing in a marriage with a dysfunctional husband for another 33 years that when I finally got a good therapist who I totally trusted the opinion of, I found in our discussions that I did need validation that the reactions I had throughout my life to the dysfunction in my life were actually normal & reasonable reactions. I had confidence enough to fight the dysfunction but it made life a real struggle because it seemed like I was in constant battle. Also it was good to know that my reaction to a final trauma that hit me was normal too along with the strength I had to leave all that crap behind after my parents died. I knew what I did was right for me all along but I did need to know if anyone else thought so who was actually trained in analyzing human behavior.
Yes, Bill3, validation was important for the final healing & integrating my past with my present to know if there were past behavior foundations that I needed to change. Realized I needed to adapt technique but the foundational thinking was right on.
This validation information also helped me realize just how dysfunctional the people I had lived with actually were & highlighted a dysfunction it created in me so I could have a good discussion with my daughter & iron out the dysfunction in our relationship
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Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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