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why is he "reassuring" me that I did not. Is it because he does not want to deal with the possibility that I did? He does not want to deal with me if he finds out that I did something bad?

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Maybe he reassures you because he knows and cares about you and he is confident that you are not someone who did something "bad."

Sometimes T's try to help us to feel better about ourselves and it backfires and we feel worse, because we understand a statement differently from the way they meant it. This has happened to me many times. What I have learned is to ask T for clarification when I begin to feel bad because I can be easily hurt. ONce I am hurt I pull back like you are right now.

Soooo, why don't you take a chance and tell T that his response was crappy. Tell him that it made you feel worse rather than better and then ask him why he said it. There are many reasons why people sometimes feel they did something bad and T can explain some of that to you. You might even feel a little better!

Working it through is hard, yesiree it is!