Not sure if I can really say much to be helpful, but I'm definitely always looking for validation. I try not to be like that, but I'm unconfident and insecure. I also tend to always see other people's point of view. So for example, if I'm in a conflict with someone, I'll still see their side of things and then not really be sure if I'm allowed to be angry. So I tend to go to other people, describe the scenario, including what I think the other person is thinking, and ask if I should be angry or not. It's a huge relief when an objective party validates me. Then from there, I won't be clear on how angry I'm really allowed to be. Again, I'll talk it over with close friends or family--how angry am I allowed to be? For how long? What's "reasonable"? Maybe for me, it's about always wanting to have "reasonable" reactions to situations?