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Originally Posted by unaluna
I think your t was wrong. They were projecting because they wont admit to themselves that they are bored. By their family or whatever. Its a tough job, the dailiness of it.
But i was also trained not to impose. To get in and out fast with my question. To the point that people found me rude and uninterested in them. I used to tell my t, i figure if somebody wants me to know something, they will tell me. Otherwise i am overstepping bounds by asking. But it was just my mother and brother constantly excluding that led to this false understanding of the real world.
Posting here helps me to learn appropriate interactions.
This is a very subtle problem, i think. People will make up their minds about why you are doing what you are doing, usually with a judgment that is not in your favor! And you are never made aware of it, except that you are once again ostracized.
Eta - i find your posts on this subject intriguing and thoughtful.
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I understand very well what you felt by being ostracized and much more for two important persons in your life like your mother and brother.
My experience was that I had this upbringing mentioned before and then, as paradoxical as it may sound, I began to excluding myself while at the same time I felt excluded. How not? If I already put the first brick giving a step back, getting myself apart.
I went into such a paranoid spiral. Thanks god, I put a final point to that loop.
You are so right. We can’t control what other people may think about us. They will make us know in some way or another.
I’m convinced that I have to take more risk now that I have more tools.