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Old Oct 12, 2022, 06:55 AM
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Originally Posted by Have Hope View Post
He is gaslighting me about what I found in his phone. He is trying to claim that I am making it into something it is not - unbelievable. I read his friend's message with my own two eyes and took screenshots of their messages. His friend point blank said "I wish she would just admit to her issues and work on them with you" as well as "you deserve far better than how you've been treated in a crisis. It's not Ok what she says to you".

I love how I'm the villain, and he's the victim. Classic narcissistic abuse maneuver.
I’d not worry about what he and his friend say in their private texts. It’s not relevant to your life as you are divorcing and you can’t stop him from saying whatever he wants in private. If it becomes some type of public or employment issues then go through lawyers. Otherwise who cares. Honestly when people fight and especially ending a relationship/marriage, it’s typical to blame someone else and vent with friends. It does not really matter
Thanks for this!
unaluna