You can’t control his private conversations. As hard as it is, let it go. Stop defending yourself. You don’t need to defend yourself. You know your reality. It probably doesn’t match up with his perception of things, but it NEVER will. That’s a battle you’ll never win, so walk away from it. At some point you have to have faith in your own good sense and truly walk away from the “need” to be right, to engage in useless arguments about who is right or wrong. Disengage from his pull on you; re-engage in faith in yourself.