I'm trying to figure out whether to run or keep attempting to help. It's very hard. And yeah, I did NOT sign up for this. If we do split, I'm never getting in another relationship for the rest of my life.


I'm sure she has a diagnosis, she has a doctor and a therapist that she is seeing, though she's changing therapists again because this new one is "too young". Problem is I can't get a straight diagnosis out of her or her doctor (Nurse/RN with Psychologist), despite even a verbal agreement with the doctor that I can ask any questions. She never told me. The most I've heard is "let's tackle this from an ADHD angle" because for a time she replaced her alcoholism with shopaholism.

I was doing some watching on YouTube last night on the situation - she's been drinking (so she's NOT recovering) and leaving me alone as I've been quite angry with her this past week (for the most part), and I'm thinking she has BPD. Her whole entire thing since I've known her is to spend long periods of time with boundless energy, complaining her "brain does not stop" (one of her many excuses for drinking which includes self-medication for Endo before her ablation, and I think right now she's using it to self-medicate because she needs another one). When she's on this energy high, she'll clean the house every day, exercise, and pace the house listening to music if she starts drinking because her "brain won't stop". Problem is, I never see a low, and high energy has always been her.