Hmmmm.... having to work to wrap my mind around this
"He often says, what bothers me is not the abuse, but my memories of it. That puts my problem in the present, rather than the past. "
Maybe that is why there is such a flimsy feeling around it - something non-tangible that I can't quite grasp about the stuff that plagues me. I'll have to take this to t and see what she says. thanks.