My significant other and I have been together for 13 years and married for more than 5 of those years. We started dating when we were 19 and have grown into completely different people since we have been together. We barely have anything in common anymore and our interests are completely different. We have been struggling with intimacy for a long time, but it seems to have gotten worse over the last 6 months to a year. He still wants to be intimate but I have no interest and even when I try, I am just really not into it and he can tell... and then we stop. We both agree that what we are doing isn't working and we are more like roommates. I am not sure how to bring that spark back, I don't feel the same way that I used to about him but he still feels the same about me but is obviously incredibly frustrated.

I feel like he deserves a person that will meet his needs and I have not in a long time. I seem to enjoy my time alone more than I do when we are together. It is not because of anything he did, it's just how I feel lately. We have talked about trying couples therapy and that is our next step. But I can't help but feel like this is the beginning of the end. Are we trying to trying to fit a square peg into a round hole?

The idea of splitting up is scary because I do love the life we have together and I don't know what will happen if we decide to go that route. I think I just have a lot of fear of the unknown. We have been together for our entire adult life and I don't know who I am without him.

I don't really know what I am looking to get out of this post but I feel very lost and confused. I have not felt comfortable talking about it with friends yet so was wondering if anyone has any advice.