Artley - I feel like my feelings are being invalidated. I wasn't looking for anyone to criticize me or even L. I was hoping for support. Maybe you just don't understand mine and L's relationship? Honesty is first and foremost. And she wasn't being honest at the start.

Every therapist I've had made sure to keep their personal life out of their professional life. Yes, L shares personal stuff about herself, but it's on my terms. She always asks first. So in that regard, I feel her H should have not been there. And according to her, she didn't realize he would be there when I arrived. They're sharing a car, and he was supposed to run errands.

Anyways, I wound up talking with J. She helped a lot. She didn't give me a solution or try to make it better. She mostly just reminded me of facts about mine and L's relationship (she would never hurt me intentionally, we've worked through other ruptures, etc.) and that even after this, I still love L. J validated my feelings and experience and my perspective without taking sides.

What I really need is to talk to L. I need to know why she wasn't direct and straightforward with me.