I’m sorry Scarlet. I definitely think she wasn’t fully in T mode when she tried denying it at first. Maybe she was flustered because she knew you would have a reaction, and was trying not to hurt you. But then realized that error (or was forced to realize it) and told you the truth. She could have doubled down into “you don’t need to know that private information from my life• Not that I think she would, as you both seem to honor honesty.

I just hope when you see her next, this will be repaired. You HAVE gone through so many other bigger ruptures, i am confident you will get through this, too.