Divine - Yes, whether her H is there or not is NOT a rule. I think some are getting focused on my upset that he was there. That is already something L and I have started processing. Well, she already knew how I felt about him, but we started processing what it was like seeing him.

Just a note, I haven't ran into him because he just moved out here this weekend. And L said she assumed he would leave right away, not sit in the car out front.

My issues is she wasn't forthcoming with me. For whatever reason that maybe, right now, I still feel it was a lie. I don't think you are understanding the gravity of that for me. It was one thing for her H being there, it's an entirely different thing to dodge my direct question when we both knew the answer. Instead of saying "Let's process if he was my H", she said she didn't know. Then later she said they were carpooling, so she did know. That's my problem. That's why I posted this thread.

I don't know why she did it. Only she knows. It could be she was trying to protect me or him. Whatever the reason, what she said was untrue: that she didn't know.

I, too, hope it gets resolved somehow. I still love her. And I do know she didn't intentionally mean to upset me. I just can't get passed this right now. Maybe if I understood? I just don't know if I'll get the chance to understand until Tuesday when she's back in the office full-time. It's very difficult sitting with this.