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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
My issues is she wasn't forthcoming with me. For whatever reason that maybe, right now, I still feel it was a lie. I don't think you are understanding the gravity of that for me. It was one thing for her H being there, it's an entirely different thing to dodge my direct question when we both knew the answer. Instead of saying "Let's process if he was my H", she said she didn't know. Then later she said they were carpooling, so she did know. That's my problem. That's why I posted this thread.
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I'm sorry you feel betrayed, but maybe it will help if you frame it as "my T is a good person who tries to protect the people she cares about" rather than framing it as a "lie" with some sort of intent to deceive on her part.
In this instance she was simply caught between trying to protect her husband (his privacy) and trying to protect your feelings as well. Sure, maybe she stumbled a little because she was caught off guard, but ultimately it sounds like her intention was to protect.