kaika... i'd feel invalidated by that for sure. Personally i think you have shown quite a lot of maturity and awareness. You're not looking for someone to become dependent on, you're thinking about what is best for you and that is very strong. Bravo girl.

talk to this T and come to a decision that way.. its ok that you dont just "know." She seems honest enough if she said she was thinking the same as you. i do think it is too early to worry about the type of therapy, but a good bond with a therapist is extremely beneficial to getting anywhere. If you decide to try another T.. maybe meet a couple, see if anyone "clicks" with you. Age was very important to me too... and if that is important to you then it is ok... it's part of what makes you able to relate. i wanted a male T, some people prefer female... neither is right or wrong.

good luck... she sounds like she will help you make the choice that is right for you