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Old Oct 17, 2022, 07:01 AM
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Originally Posted by unaluna View Post
They used to call it "crazy-making." R D Laing promoted it, but others refused to follow it. I think because it gives too much power to the other person and promotes victim mentality. I would say they havent been in that position, where the other person by manipulation alters your reality and your reactions. Really your only recourse is to get out. They didnt talk about no-contact in laing's time either, that came much later.

My dad always used to say, "every man is the king of his own castle." You dont hear that much anymore!
YES - it's crazy making and it's all making me absolutely loony. I need to get back to normalcy - a healthier and more peaceful life without him. He cannot leave soon enough. No contact is definitely the way to go in order to be healthy again.
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