Well this time, I basically lost it and started screaming at her. And I explained probably 2-3 times why it upsets me when she does it and told her to stop stuffing me into her hypotheticals, that I'm glad I don't have in-laws she can harass me over, that I call to be there for her but she just wants to throw me in the *****. But she just kept interrupting me, trying to justify what she'd said, re-explaining the point she'd been trying to make, defending herself. Then she'd say she doesn't understand why I'm so upset and I'd explain it again, but 2 seconds into my explanation (which I was semi-screaming, I admit) she'd interrupt again with her justifications and self defense. "Oh I didn't mean to upset you, I have no idea where this is coming from, I don't know how I've created this reaction, I'm so sorry, I was just saying that if I were X then I would make sure Y knows how to treat her in-laws, a mother has the right to talk to her children when they do something wrong, if I made the same point to A, B or C (my cousins) they would never react like this, I really want to understand what exactly I said that was so wrong..." <- the stuff in quotes multiplied by 10, on top of anything I might be attempting to say.


Then I got home and told her I had to go and she tried to keep me on the line begging me to explain it to her again and I hung up on her...