Trying to keep this one short... I called my mom while driving home today because I knew she wanted to vent about something my brother and his family did yesterday. She feels they don't treat her well. So she vented for a while and I tried to validate her where I could.

However, she does this thing sometimes that makes me go ballistic and unfortunately she stumbled back into it. She was criticizing her fellow mother in law and saying that the lady should tell her daughter to treat her (my mother) better. But then she went on about how if I were mistreating my in-laws, she would never let me get away with it.

My mother is very controlling. It really drives me crazy where she invents scenarios where I'm doing things that I would never actually do so she can tell me how she would treat/correct/educate me. There was another time when a girl got pregnant really irresponsibly (long story) and my mother started going on about how if that were me, she would never let me keep the baby, she would make sure that she raised it herself. I felt so judged and infuriated and frankly embarrassed (this was in public, not just a conversation between us)--and the whole thing had nothing to do with me.

I'm a responsible person who treats everyone well. I provide more emotional support to my mom than anyone else in her life. I can't stand how she likes to imagine me doing messed up things I would never do so she could imagine correcting me, and then rubs my face in those scenarios.

Did I overreact? I'm experiencing huge work stress right now and am at my emotional limit.