Thanks for this. I was actually thinking about it too earlier today... I was thinking about this long lasting fight I'm having with that colleague. My significant other has tried to get me to talk to the colleague, but I keep on refusing, saying "He won't listen" and "He won't understand" and "It won't change anything" and "Anything I say will be used against me." Well but I do feel it's all true with this colleague...but maybe I would have been more willing to try if not for all these years of dealing with my mom and the way she always turns things back on me....