Are you still here, Jack?


Yours was the first post I read here. In fact, it must have appeared in a search for terms from my own situation.
Back then, I was far too unstable to sit and compose posts. I feel for you in your situation so much.
Im also losing my home, although I'm not the one who moved out first.

It's very clear that the turn for the worse in my relationship came when we bought and moved into a house, too. Although we rented together before that for over a decade.

Her sex drive dwindled over time, for reasons I simply can't understand yet.


She was plagued by problems that I really never felt fundamentally changed our connection, and I was absolutely optimistic that she'd get through it and we'd live together for the rest of our lives. I simply didn't believe that splitting up was possible, just not physically possible. There was no effort to improve things, she simply gave it all up in one go.


I also have a terror that this whole thing is related to another person. I feel devastated when I even hear of that happening to others. I'm so sorry its happening to you. I believe my own former partner has always had an insatiable urge for attention, often from other men in the past. I was absolutely loyal every day of 15+ years.


Now she's left, the longing from earlier turned often to resentment when I started being able to see the situation more objectively.


If you're still here or getting alerts, I'd genuinely be glad to see an update on your situation and how you're feeling now.