This type of personality can rub anyone the wrong way. Yes, very controlling and telling others what to do like she has authority. That can trigger anyone who has a history of a bossy know it all type personality that at times can be condescending. “This is that and you have to do this or that”. People don’t like that.

My older sister is that age and she can be that way, bossy and very controlling. Often that can come from a parent behaving that way, like a bossy school teacher given a license to dictate and judge and correct.