I was wondering if a therapist has ever helped you learn to set healthy boundaries if there were issues with abuse/neglect in childhood? Or just in general?

My parents were of the opinion that I ''should'' learn ''life lessons'' through the ''School of Hard Knocks''. Ugh.

They both had ''issues'' with boundaries, I believe both had clinically diagnosable NPD. They were not self aware (it was always, apparently, someone else who was Wrong and Bad, usually me )

A therapist did ''teach'' me about boundaries, but not in a positive sense.

I'm also wondering if I'm the only person here who seems to have been a magnet to Narcissists in the past?

Sometimes I seem to share ''too little'' and sometimes ''too much''.... Of course that is a judgment though.

I find it more helpful to try to be AS IS, the complete opposite of my upbringing where I was supposed to be silent (then eventually blamed for it)

I read a post by someone here asking if there is a support group for support groups I sometimes think that might be helpful And also support groups for those in therapy.. (deleted)

Peace,
Fuzzy