I am having a spike in emails to T... between a part integrating and nearing the end I am extra needy. That reminded me of the last time I was sending T a LOT of emails between sessions. I was sending a lot of emails and most of them were long. I went to session and T gently brought up the emails and asked if it would be OK to talk about that now or did I have something I needed to talk about and we could talk about the emails at the end of session. OMG I was so scared! If there had been anything I wanted to talk about it was gone, I was so scared.

T was SO gentle and I know he knew I was scared. He kept the WHOLE thing about him not about me. He explained how he had a lot of activities going on outside of work right now and was also working a lot of hours and needed to pay attention to his self care. He said that he would still read all my emails but he may not be able to get to all of them before our next session. He said he was reading them during down times (like waiting at a Dr appointment) so he may not reply. He validated my need for support and said it was OK that I was wanting that support from him.

I think he was worried that I would react poorly but it felt SO good to have the therapist acknowledge their professional limits instead of blaming my need.

So I hope that if there is ever a change in your T's email policy that it is handled as well as awesome T handled it with me. Emails still ebb and flow and sometimes he answers and sometimes he doesn't but they still have never been too much...