I’m so angry. So I live with my grandma and without warning my mom came to move in with us. I don’t have a good relationship with my mom and never would have imagined living with her again. I wouldn’t have moved in with my grandma had I known my mom would be here but I’m currently saving up to move out.

I tried to just be civil but she’s been on my case about sleeping too much, “being depressed”, and has asked to pay for my therapy. When I refused, she got so angry saying the way I’m living is unhealthy and that I need to make a plan for my life. I’m good on all accounts. I have a plan for my life and can pay for my own therapy. I don’t want her to have the excuse of asking me what I talk about in therapy if she were to pay for it and besides I don’t need it. It drove me crazy how she would not accept this answer.

Then a week or so later, something happened (don’t want to share what) but she got hurt and then yelled at me for not helping her (my grandma was helping and I was too scared to leave my room). I’m angry because I would never in a million years would do this to her. I’m not a yeller. I feel like your true colors show when you’re in pain or traumatized so it bothers me that that’s who she is.

She has been so critical and rude. Telling me that I should have know to behave in certain ways and help her without her asking beforehand. If this were a romantic relationship or a friend, the relationship would be long over. This is my first time living with her since my 1 1/2 years of therapy and the problems are so much clearer to me. I don’t know what to do, just that I want to stop living together. I am trying to save up to move and then I don’t know if our relationship will continue. I love her but I don’t like how she treats me and I don’t want someone like that in my life.

Should I say something to help the relationship? How do I get over my anger (she’s very emotionally immature so it’s hard to have a conversation about what happened)?