I am worked up right now.

Yesterday he tells me that our therapist "told him things" about me.

So, I wrote to the therapist, saying this is a breach of patient confidentiality, if so, and if not, then my husband is lying.

The therapist wrote back, saying it wasn't out of the context of our couples sessions, and only his observations.

So I bluntly told him that my husband is an abusive narcissist, of which he is UNAWARE, & that my husband charmed him and manipulated him to think that I was at fault for all our issues and that there's something wrong with ME, then I told him that I never felt validated in my experience of the abuse and that's why I quit therapy!

I am glad I confronted him and I am glad I was honest with my perception of him. AND, IF he did breach patient confidentiality, I could report him. I didn't tell him this part though.

OR, my husband is just trying to upset me by saying that, and make me paranoid about what the therapist is saying to him.

And to tell me I've abandoned him during a crisis with his mother? I said, what was I going to do? Pretend that I love you and live a lie????? NO. I told him there is no right time for a divorce.

Then, naturally, my husband is all nicey nice later on that evening, saying "have a good night".

It's a roller coaster with him! It's the crazy train, and I hate it. I will learn gray rock method so that he can't get me to react.

I know I probably AM being too kind, but a large part of me feels it's not right to pack his things and leave them outside. And, I know I would get yelled at for it too.

I told him not to come over today and that I need a break from seeing him. He was here both on Sat & Sun, and perhaps even Friday. I definitely need my space.