Dear T,
So I really was emailing you to confirm the time and make sure you didn't have anything earlier. But part of me wanted to say something else about the session. I wonder whether you realized/suspected that? But I'm still trying to keep my balance low (or whatever term we used for it) as long as I can before H's surgery, in case I need you more then. Or if I need you more for whatever reason at some other time. I'm not even sure what I would have wanted to say, let alone what I would have wanted to hear in return, so I feel it would have been a wasted, possibly conflict-inducing (if I were unhappy with your reply) email.

I'm glad we seemed to avert the conflict early in the session. It seemed like you were accusing me of something I wasn't doing--I wasn't trying to say that you'd said a particular thing, just that your saying it made my mind go there. It just started to feel tense, which is why I said "I don't want this to become a conflict." It seemed we both sort of reset then, which was a relief.

Love,
LT