She has trouble due to arthritis getting dressed. I told her to talk to her dr for assistance. I really don't want to move in with her. I don't mind going to there on weekends but she wants more time and I do assist dressing her a small amount pulling the back of her pants over her butt getting her bra stap pulled up in the back. putting on a jacket or coat.

Every weekend she tells me she wants me to move in. visiting is one thing but honestly there's no room for my stuff she barely has room for herself now that she downsized.

She took care of her mom and she expects the same of me. My brother has said he would take care of her but she doesn't want to move in with his family. she wants to stay put and have me to command basically. it would be very bad for my mental health to say the least.