Ah folks...i've been doing a little "connecting the dots" myself based on your posts, your pm's, and our chat conversations...and this is my own little "lightbulb" for the day....Clearly many of you are in pain....wanting love....feeling rejected by love....obsessing over the pain of love unrequited, and as a fellow human, i certainly understand. But look very closely at what you are mourning - all that glitters isn't gold...We can look at someone and perceive their attractiveness, their magnetism, their wit, and their intelligence...whatever....but all of the referenced traits don't necessarily preclude being an as s....I think there are those individuals who literally "feed" themselves on the adoration of others...they may not realize that they're doing it...but it's a selfish game to play.....you don't need that game playing in your lives....no one does....