100% facts, Have Hope. I too am recently divorced after 8 years of an emotional abuse roller coaster. It hurt, it was hard, but damn does it feel good to be away from it. It was hard to see that I was getting abused when I was getting blamed for everything. there was a time I thought it was me, it was not me, at all. But it was MY choice to get out before it kept getting worse, nothing was going to improve when he(to this day) believes he had no idea what he was doing. Yeah Right...
Now it's just me I have to work on. No more working on a disaster of a relationship. No more sleepless nights worrying about when the next blowout will be, nothing. Just me time. I hope you find peace. If anything, there is a sense of inner strength and peace you may feel once you make the decision to be on your own. It's very freeing.